The Original poster mentioned that she was happily married and had a few pets but no children. Further, she added that her relationship with her mother wasn’t that good. OP said she was tormented by her mother in her childhood even in adulthood. This quarrel about having babies had been there for a long time.

The OP mentioned her mother’s love for babies and taunting her by adding that she liked babies because they don’t have their own opinion. OP and her husband have discussed and decided that they didn’t want any children. She also mentioned that her mother pleaded for her to have a child all because she only had a year to live and this was a perfect time to get pregnant.

OP was stuck on her decision to not have any kids. But to change that a few of her mother’s friends and relatives came along to change her decision. They gave compelling arguments about them being able to afford a child and having enough space in their home than required, but she didn’t lose her stand.

One reader reassured her that she was mature, responsible, and smart enough to not have a child just to placate other people. A child is not a toy that she could return once her mother got her a few months of love and care with the child. He said that she’d be responsible for that child for at least two decades. And, if in case she didn’t want that child, it’d be crazy to carry that responsibility just because her mother wanted her to.

One user wrote that she never had and never would understand people putting pressure on others to have children when they know that they know they don’t want to have them at the moment. She said that it was good to know if a couple wanted to be childless and wanted to set up boundaries.

Someone commented that she was not being selfish when her mother was the one demanding something from her that she don’t have or even want to have or willing to give at all. She added by saying that we are in no way obligated to produce children just due to family pressures. Only people who want to have children should have children.

The post Woman Called Selfish After She Refused To Fulfill Mother’s Dying Wish For A Grandchild appeared first on Of Mum.