A bride-to-be took to a social media platform to share background of her relationship with her stepfather. She is 25 and getting married next year. She explained that she wanted her mother to walk her down the aisle instead of her stepfather. This recent incident highlighted their strained relationship. Her father passed away when she was 9 years old. Then her mother found someone and got remarried when she was 13. She never considered him as her parent or a figure and that’s why she didn’t want him walking her down the aisle.

The mother accepted it at first but later on called her to tell that her stepfather is hurt for not wanting him to walk with her. Mother asked her if she would be open on him doing it or both the parents doing it. But she told her mother that she was more comfortable doing it with her only. She explained that her stepfather is an alright guy but still she struggled a lot to form any kind of bond. Her mother tried to mediate her but she never understood her inability to accept having a third parent.

The bride-to-be explained that she wasn’t ready at that time and he was a very intimidating man thus failing to form a bond. The stepfather was ex-military and very grim most of the time and she couldn’t have a heart to heart thing with him either.She wrote that she would be very uncomfortable having him walk with me, even if it was with her mom.

When her stepfather found out that she asked her mom to walk her down the aisle, he was not happy. He sent her a text after a few days she spoke to her mom about it. He said, very formally, that she was being unfair and needed to think about everything and reflect on her not wanting him to do it. The mother told her that she was in a tough spot. As she wanted to walk with her daughter but on other hand didn’t want to upset her husband.

A lot of people agreed with the daughter and showed their support. Many thought that her stepfather shouldn’t force his way into her life and he should respect her decision. One commented that she shouldn’t have to compromise as it’s her marriage but unfortunately her mother would feel awkward doing it. One person suggested her to consider walking down the aisle with her husband. It would symbolize that they are talking this step together. Other person said that the only two people’s wishes which are relevant are the people getting married and the rest should not feel entitled to do what they want at someone else’s wedding.

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