The mom took it to Reddit and explained that she has two daughters and one son aged 30 years, 16 years, and 17 years respectively. She revealed that her eldest daughter is from a different father from the other two which implied that she was fairly grown by the time her mother had the other two children.

The woman admitted that during the teen years, the eldest daughter had additional babysitting duties in the house. Their mother had to work during the afternoons and evenings, so she would pick the babies up from daycare and watch them until their mom came back home at night.

Unfortunately, this led to a strained relationship between the daughter and mother as she has become an adult. The daughter told her mother that she used her as a second parent which caused her a lot of stress and took a toll on her social life during adolescence.

The mom explained that the family was struggling financially and she always seemed keen to help with the babies but the mother feels that she should not have taken advantage of her.

In the present-day, the daughter is a financial consultant and earning a handsome amount of money. The mother is incredibly proud of her and her achievements.

When it came to arranging for her teens’ tuition fees, the mother wanted to avoid heavy student loans and asked her 30-year-old if she was interested to contribute somewhat to her siblings’ tuitions. She pointed it out to her that she could absolutely refuse or they could discuss the possibility of paying her back over a period of years.

To the mother’s shock, her daughter became really upset with her. She told her mother that it was appropriate for her to ask and that the only reason she would ever consider asking her was that she always considered her daughter a second parent rather than a child.

The mother explained that since the eldest daughter’s father lives across the country and could not be with her when she was growing up, so he offered to pay for her schooling as a token of apology.
She asked the Reddit users if she was wrong or not in the whole situation and the post has divided the users.

One Redditor opposed her by saying, “You admit to yourself you took advantage of your daughter when she was younger and now have the gall to ask her to be a parent to her siblings again? She’s right. You asking was extremely inappropriate.”

Another one said that leech is a fitting word for people like her.

There were some Redditors who defended her with one writing, “Yes, it sucks OP’s eldest had to take on significant childcare responsibilities in her important teenage years. But what’s your alternative here? OP shouldn’t have had a job, which, a quick reminder, was the only thing paying for all of her children to be fed and sheltered?”

While everyone agreed to the hard work the mother had to go through to raise her three children single-handedly, the majority of the users thought that she did cross a line by asking her daughter for the money.

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