If we still keep on implementing our old parenting ways, the upshot can be unfortunate. We don’t refrain ourselves from the advancements and so should be the case with parenting as well. Well, it isn’t easy for some grandmothers to assimilate. A woman took her concern to the subreddit JustNoMIL about her 5-months old baby who hadn’t seen his grandma more often due to the lockdown.

When there was a little relaxation in the stay-at-home orders, she came up to see her grandkid. The mother had no idea that her mother-in-law is going to be so judgmental when it comes to parenting. From a few of her meetings, she concluded that the mother and her husband were “spoiling” their baby. It appeared to be so because the baby had only cried twice in front of her, once when he was overtired and secondly when he had enough of his tummy time.

As per these two incidents, the mother-in-law comprehended that these parents were fulfilling every wish of their baby. Plus, feeding him often and letting him sleep with them was another evil thing. “We are introducing solids slowly and he’s at the stage where he plays with them curiously but hardly puts any in his mouth. She was really upset when I stopped her from forcefully spooning purée into his mouth after he pursed his lips shut,” said the mom.

Moreover, the MIL forwarded her knowledge to her husband’s grandparents as well. In return, her husband’s grandmother called asking these parents to let the baby cry more or else his lungs won’t develop. Plus, they shall put more emphasis on making him independent. However, the parents’ technique is something that these elderly people aren’t getting.

MIL wants us to make our baby cry more often. from JUSTNOMIL

The mother agrees that they respond to her their son’s need in order to have a special bonding as a parent. Raising the kid this way feels more like a privilege. For now, the husband’s family believes that this 5-months-old kid is so good at manipulating his parents. Besides, he had always been so kind in their presence. In the end, the OP’s MIL suggested that she should leave the baby with her to make him tough.

Little do these people know that these were the methods of yore and now they are proven to be damaging a baby’s mental growth? Everyone on Reddit had been in favor of the mother. Someone also explained that studies suggest comforted babies to be more adventurous and independent while they grow up. When they feel safe, their hypothalamus can concentrate on other abilities instead of focusing on soothing themselves.

Another person also commented that this old-fashioned parenting was practiced way back in the past century and has been given up since then.

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