Husband Frustrated After Pregnant Wife Refuses To Know The Baby’s Gender
The “gender reveal” of a baby is a big event as the parents can finally agree on a name and go for outfit shopping for the baby. This announcement is a crucial one and we can’t see any reason for a feud around this topic. However, this couple had contrasting views on this topic that led to some serious disputes.
The dad was quite disturbed by this scene and wanted to let his frustration out. So, he shared the situation with the online world. His wife was not ready to know the gender of their baby until after giving birth. She wanted to keep it a “surprise” and that didn’t please her husband at all.
This couple was ready to welcome their second baby but things seemed to be tougher this time with the whole “gender reveal”. He wrote in the post, “Chatting with family on the phone, I said I wanted to know, and my wife said she wasn’t sure — that she was thinking about being surprised — and made a joke about how the gynecologist wasn’t going to tell me without her permission.” The poor man couldn’t tell at that moment that she was serious about it and not joking around.
The anonymous dad admitted that he wanted to know the gender of his baby but his wife stood firm about her decision of keeping it a secret and not knowing it. He added, “I didn’t like the feeling that she was making the decision for me. It doesn’t seem to me like that big of a deal if I know and she doesn’t. But to her, that feels like I’m the one deciding for both of us — that I’ve made up my mind to know regardless of what she thinks.”
The couple could not reach a healthy conclusion with this and so, the man turned to this advice column to clear his head. He asked for help!
People had a lot to say on this matter and yes, the teams were set. On one hand, people supported the dad and raised questions on the woman’s decision. One commented, “The issue is the mother deciding for the husband, and not letting him know just because she doesn’t want to know. It’s a weird, entitled, possessive way of thinking.”
Some people just could not wrap their heads around the fact that someone would let the big gender reveal to pass. Keeping it a “surprise” sounded ridiculous to them!
On the other hand, a few people stood by the mom’s side and told the husband to pay heed to what his wife wants. They warned him against throwing his opinions in the argument.
One comment read, “OMG … quit your whining you don’t know the baby’s gender … it’s not like she’s ignoring the CVS/amniocentesis test. Besides, A happy wife is a happy life … and an unhappy pregnant wife is gonna come back to you over and again.”
Finally, this man added in the end that the couple has mutually come to the decision of knowing the gender.
The columnist Nicole Cliffe finally appreciated their way of resolving and wrote, “Talk about your mutual reasons for wanting or not wanting this information, get all those feelings out there, and then make a decision as a family. Good job, gold star.”
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