The dad loves his daughters to the core but has concerns when he sees some egregious changes in their behavior. It seems to be coming from his wife as her childhood was a nightmare. Her mother was possibly the reason behind it, which is why she always tried to be easy on the girls. She won’t even discern their mistakes and show disapproval wherever necessary. Moreover, she also had to go to a therapist.

However, this leniency isn’t bringing up a fruitful upshot. The behavior of their two daughters, five and seven-years-old, gives an inkling that they aren’t on the right path. They never rethink before saying anything inappropriate. They act mean to the extent where people cannot be more annoyed to have them around. Besides, they incessantly denigrate others by making comparisons.

Kids are usually unaware of where they’re doing. It should be a parent’s duty to show them the right way to deal with things. But that’s not the case with this man’s wife. She assumes it to be completely normal when her daughters misbehave. She overlooks the repercussions, believing bossy kids to be future leaders. So, it becomes easy for the kids to vent their rudeness.

“She doesn’t want to do anything when they say bad things to us or others. She ignored our eldest’s teacher’s comments that she was excluding kids on the playground. It’s been an argument between us for a long time,” the dad says.

The same issue happened with the babysitter. The couple went out on a date at a restaurant, after the restrictions were removed. However, on their return, they got to know that their youngest daughter made fun of her, telling she had a ‘big tummy’ and asked her to lose weight. She felt broken and also asked them to stop, but instead, they laughed at her. The dad apologized for it, but his wife thought it to be funny. After this scene, the couple had a divisive discussion.

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His wife doesn’t see any issues with their behavior. She disagreed when he asked her to be a little strict to them, but he was firm about doing it as he saw his daughters turning into bullies. Since the talk, his wife hasn’t talked to him, and he still thinks if he’s doing the right thing. People favored his opinion. A person explained that assigning roles and taking charge while playing is, in no way, related to being rude. Scorning a babysitter for her weight doesn’t exhibit any quality of a leader.

But some people also had concerns because his wife didn’t even see the consequence when her daughters made such mean judgments. It might have already turned them into bullies. Someone pointed out that it was conspicuous where it came from. Children need to be taught what’s right and what’s not. Also, it’s never too late to make them do it. The better way to deal with it would be the couple’s collective decision to bring changes.

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