There are a lot of things we get to know about someone when our relationship grows to the point of moving in. It's exhilarating to take that first step but we learn a lot about someone when we share space with them. We anticipate certain problems that may come with it but we believe that they will be readily overcome.

To make the relationship work, the couple should be committed to each other. They should be able to communicate without any hesitation and listen to their partner too. Apparently, this was the problem one woman was having after melding her life with her boyfriend. They have been in a live-in relationship for two years, which the people would think was enough time to figure out a lot of issues.

However, sometimes difficulties did arise, and for the original poster, the most recent one with her boyfriend was perplexing. So, she posted on Reddit to explain what has been going on and expected that the readers would offer some suggestions. The OP shared that she and her boyfriend, with whom she had been living for a couple of years, had a good financial understanding as far as she thought. They divide things in a certain way due to their jobs and when the other gets paid.

They felt that they had a fair divide, even though it was not equal in terms of money. She said that she paid for the groceries and the internet. Not only that, but she also contributed to the other utilities as she could. Her boyfriend usually covered the rent and objected if she tried to give him a fair share (anything over $300 he refused), but she did her best to help him out.

Like many couples, money was a matter of worry for them. For him particularly, whenever it came to paying expenses, he gets enraged and irritated which resulted in a lot of pressure on them. She now felt terrible about her expenditure because of the stress. But that was not how her boyfriend felt.

She added that he spent most of his money on food. He bought breakfast and lunch at his job where he was not even given any discount for it. Although he confessed to her that he wanted to make changes in his way of spending, he hasn’t. He once told her that he would cook his lunch again like he used to but has not implemented it yet.

Their recent issue happened when they got their tax refunds. The OP’s was $1800 and his was $600. This made things weird. From the time she got her refund, he has been hinting at getting new tires for the car and needing $100 windshield wipers. He even asked her if they could go to a hibachi place. She told him that she would like to save the money she got so that she didn't reach the negatives every week like she was before the return.

He said that it wasn’t done as her return was more than his and because she only gave in money for a few of the bills, he should be able to do some extra things since they had extra money. She asked on Reddit as she was at a loss for what to say to her partner without seeming selfish because, other than meals, she had no idea where his money went. Many people suggested that Things would be a lot easier for those two if they communicated their sentiments rather than hiding what they want to convey.