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Mother Gets Upset Over Piano Teacher’s Invalidating Text

Parenting July, 01, 2025

Parents can usually be paranoid when it comes to their kids. They can get a little overprotective in certain scenarios. In one such case, a mother took to the internet to ask netizens if she was being unnecessarily upset after receiving an unsupportive message from her son’s piano teacher. And people were convinced that she was being unreasonable.

A mother was left completely disappointed as soon as she received a text from her 10 – year – old son’s piano teacher. The unknown woman took to Mumsnet’s ‘Am I Being Unreasonable’ forum to ask other parents on the internet for their suggestions.

The woman wrote “Am I being unreasonable to be upset by piano teacher’s comments?” She said that her son Josh had been taking piano lessons. And after learning the instrument for about 6 weeks, she suddenly got a text from his teacher who thought that the little boy was not really interested in learning piano.

The teacher addressed her concern by saying that Josh was struggling in the class. He would complain that his fingers were aching even when they had just started the lesson. She continued “This morning he told me he has been doing too much writing in class beforehand. He talks a lot and does not seem particularly interested.” Josh always made an excuse to his piano teacher that he had already practiced on his iPad. She also added that she was not sure if piano was right for him. She asked his mom to consider some other instrument.

The mother asked if she had the right to be upset as her son was being unsupported. The post got various responses from fellow parents. Many Mumsnet users felt that she was being unreasonable. One person wrote that Josh really seemed uninterested and that anyone in the teacher’s place would do the same. A second wrote “I would expect a 10 – year - old to try a bit harder to be honest. What do you expect her to do? It doesn't sound like his behavior is great in lessons if he is complaining and making excuses all the time.”

Another person said that piano lessons were a waste of time if one does not practice. “I am taking music lessons as an adult and my teacher is quite open that without time, commitment and passion it is a waste of everyone’s time.” Someone else thought that the teacher was being kind as she was helping the mother save money because piano lessons were really costly.

After seeing all the remarks, the woman added in the comments that Josh willingly wanted to join the classes and that she had not forced him. She was even planning to buy a second – hand piano for him to rehearse on as he was in the process of learning. She also felt that the all comments were a little harsh and abrupt. And a phone call from the teacher would have had been way more kind.