As parents, it is difficult to take out time from kids to spend with your partner. There are never-ending jobs and responsibilities for a parent which makes it arduous to be with your better half. In such an incident, a mother of two had some concerns about her husband. Their views didn’t accord with each other about spending some time together.  

It is necessary to take some time out with your partner to keep the relationship healthy. But the woman was perplexed regarding the issue and she took it to social media. She explained that they had two kids aged two and three respectively. She took care of the kids and hence they did not require any nanny. She was happy to do the job by herself. However, her husband had a different view of that. The man kept insisting his wife that they should hire a nanny as their youngest one was not dependent on her mother anymore. 

The husband suggested that not because her to go to work. Instead, he wanted them to hang out more often. Also, it would be convenient for them to go on dates and trips without worrying about the kids. And that setup was common among his friends and family. Hence, he was confused as to why his wife was against it.

On the other hand, the wife was strongly against hiring a nanny as she had seen how it worked amongst his friends and family. She did not want her kids to be raised by someone else just because her husband wanted them to spend some time without the kids. The issue came up again sparking a fight. The mum further explained that she had already made her decision clear. But her husband kept pestering after her. He had brought the issue again and she told him that the reasons for hiring a nanny were selfish. And she would not agree to it. 

The husband got mad at her as the woman called him selfish. He was upset with his wife. That made the woman turned to social media to know whether she was right or wrong. The woman felt that she was correct for calling her husband selfish and denying to hire a nanny. However, when the conversation started on Reddit, the common consent was both the woman and the man were wrong in that case. One user commented that it was understandable that the husband wanted to take her out, but they did not need nanny for that. A babysitter would have been just perfect for such occasions.

Another user shared that it was not selfish to spend some quality time with one’s partner. It was necessary to take out time in a relationship. The user further told that kids were not ignored by those parents who had hired nannies for them. The parents still raised their kids. The user suggested that she needed to schedule her time so that she could spend it with her husband and kids. That would help her to evenly distribute her time.

“Everyone here sucks,” said a user. “For treating this as if ‘full-time nanny’ and ‘no child care but you are the only options.’” If it wasn’t financially affordable for their family to hire a full-time nanny, they should have hired an evening or a weekend nanny. The user further asked them to hire a nanny for couple of nights, a weekend day or occasional overnight trips, to enjoy their good fortune.