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Hesitant to save your match’s number with their last name? Don’t worry, It’s normal

Relationships July, 07, 2025

Most people do not like to save their match’s number with their last name. According to them, that helps them play safe. They believed putting up their last name could jinx their relationship. Adding to that, they also do not want to over-invest in a relationship. The Los Angeles-based relationship therapist Dr. Gary Brown touts this behavior as normal.  

Gone are the days when one has to wait for love to unwind for one. One need not wait for destiny’s signal in one’s love life. Thanks to the power of technology, one can have one’s heart bubbling with a few clicks. Many social media platforms have turned the compass of love to unite hearts around the world. They go a long way in helping one find one’s soul mate. Not just that, they also strive to let one connect to one’s dream love. Therefore, we can notice a surge in relationships with no regard to geographical boundaries.  

However, that does not mean that love issues are over. They have got a makeover and continue to bother love birds. Not just that, one can also see emerging trends and habits in the domain. For instance, most people do not save their match’s number with their last name. They know their last name. But they refrain from adding them to their contact list. Instead, they put Bumble, Tinder, etc., as their reference. 

Do you also refrain from adding your match’s last name? Well, if yes, then you are not alone. Many people follow that trend. They give many arguments to support their stance. For instance, a few of them feel that their match’s last name can jinx their relationship. According to them, their relationship fails to work when they save their match’s number with their last name.

Apart from that, many people also leave aside the last name bid because they do not want to overinvest in their relationship. By saving their last name, they feel like they are making their match a part of their life. And, in this uncertain world, that makes sense. One cannot take the risk of letting one in their life when there is no certainty that it will last long.

Not just that, but it also takes a toll on one’s emotions. According to them, it takes a lot of strength for them to delete the number when their relationship fails. Taking on that, one person named Nicole said, “It means I’m letting you into my life in a more wholesome and permanent way like I’m making an effort to separate you from the dozens of other bogus men I’ve matched with on dating apps by full-on adding you to my Contacts. Basically, I’m giving you more permanence in my life.”

However, many people also believed that it is not healthy. It makes one underconfident about one’s relationship. Delving into the issue, a Los Angeles relationship therapist Dr. Gary Brown calls this a normal behavior. He said, “Not saving their last name helps to somewhat depersonalize them so that you don't get too attached too quickly.”

Adding to that, he shared, “In this day and age where it sometimes seems that everything and everyone is so easily disposed of, it makes sense that people would and do use this helpful tactic. I think it’s healthy in the very beginning stages of dating someone you don’t really know.”

Therefore, one should not feel down if one hesitates to save one’s match number without their last name. It is a relief in the end.