David Jay, a software developer and the hero of the story has not had sex for nearly a decade is now co-parenting a couple. It has been eight years that the 36-year-old hasn’t had sex and is currently living with Zeke, also 36, a climate scientist, and Avary, 34, the director of a not-for-profit, with their daughter in San Francisco, California.

He explains that he was 13 years old when he realized that he was asexual and told his family about it at the age of 18. Initially, he had thoughts like that he is a late bloomer or maybe there is something wrong with him. However, he then accepted the fact that he has no interest in intercourse. Not that he hasn’t had intercourse in life but he is body doesn’t need it like others.

He likes cuddling and physical touch but he doesn’t feel a pull towards intercourse. In 2010, David met Avary in a conference and became friends over time. After a while, they decided to take the relationship further among the three of them. They started spending more time with each other and wanted to grow their connection. In 2014, Zeke and Avary tied the knot and they asked David to have a baby with them.

It was an emotional moment for David and he felt honored to be a father with his co-parents. They got into the monetary details and in the second trimester, David moved in with the couple. Three of them did the birth classes together and both the men were on their toes to help with the birth of their first child in 2017.

David is just getting the 18-month-old daughter’s adoption procedure completed and they are leading a happy and healthy lifestyle.

Since the baby has been born, both of them take shifts to feed the baby and they agree to the fact that this set up is a success in their case. The couple gets time to spend with each other and David is there to help always. None of them is tired when it comes to taking care of the baby as they are not exhausted.

They are breaking the stereotype of exhausted parents and are creating the support and community you need. In San Francisco, most of the couple do have roommates and that is what they have, except the fact that they are all co-parents.